Marvin Calling Out Ocho.

Thursday brought an traditional day for the Cincinnati Bengals, everybody showing up to work, with a more upbeat spirit after snapping a 10 game losing streak, After it was brought to Chad Ochocinco attention Marvin spoke about him in a recent article, Chad was looking forward to reading some good. To his disappointment he found the exact opposite. Marvin was reported telling Chris Jenkins of the San Diego Union-Tribute some hurtful things about Chad this morning. When Marvin was asked how Chad was doing he replied by saying "Well, he's being his mopey self. Hopefully, he can pull himself out of it and move forward ... When things don't go Chad's way, that's kinda how it happens." When ask how do he deal with it, "I don't deal with it," he said. "We just move on. We'll put a new guy in there. If he's not ready to go Sunday, we'll have somebody in there ready to go and go from there." Chris Jenkins was surprise that the conversation even venture off into this. Chris said when he ask how Chad was doing he was referring to the foot injury Chad is battling with. Chad who has been very quiet this year as far as talking to the media, I was very interested to see how he felt about the comments made about him. Chad was very upset about what was said about him surprisingly. Most of the time he usually don't pay much attention to what said about him, but he was pissed about this stating "Since when the fuck am I mopey? I'm injured for the first time in 9 yrs and it's called being mopey,unless i'm dead then I get my respect." Coming from Marvin it hit home with Chad, because he felt him and Marvin was better than that, he feel that Marvin is throwing him under the bus for the rough year saying on twitter "Did anybody get the license plate to the bus I just been threw under?" Chad who been known as a show out and big mouth of the league, if you can recall a few years back when he wanted to be out of Cincinnati as some would believe. he always stated that the fans never understand what goes on outside the lines, could this be an example of what he means?? Chad thinks so, " This is how they treat you when your injured, Things the fan can't see." Chad said. I'm not sure if what Marvin said was serious,or an effort to motivate Chad knowing his best receiving target is out for the year, but with the the playoff contending chargers coming into town, if they were planning to go into Sunday match up with the big 'MO' on their side from the win this past Sunday, that's pretty much out the window. In my opinion this just verify what we as fans already had an idea of, one of these guy definitely not gone be here this year. As far as Sunday goes, Chad has been limited in practice, but expected to play. With T.O. been on the shelf for the rest of the year, the last thing you need is an upset Chad Johnson, though Caldwell, Simpson played well last against the Brown, they're not guys you can depend on to be your air attack, they just not good enough. It's going to be interesting to see how Chad react to this come Sunday the best thing he can do is come out and play well, or he can come out and be as Marvin said "mophy" and not be a factor. Which do you think is more likely to be on display????

As You Celebrate Your Birthday Today, My Heart and Mind Battles

*So as you celebrate your birthday 26th today my mind want to wish you a happy bithday.
*My heart on the other hand, that know your betrayal ways don't won't to allow me.
*My heart that's been in the same battle with my mind since I was 18 years old.
*A battle that, no matter the outcome each round, or which side wins I end up angry, upset and heart broke.
*Why?
*I would like to hear your answer to that question.
*You know it been 5 years, 5 years you have played with my heart.
*Yes, my heart has been broken, on many occassion, by many girls, this being by far the worst because how you continue to drag this on.
*I blame myself impart no doubt, my inability to see, and neglect of a problem that's been clear as day.
*On a couple different occasions, I have been strong enough, believe it or not to move on, but for some reason we never leave it alone.
*How do you do it?
*How do you possess the ability to insult and compliment in the same sentence, very convincingly might I add.
*An insightful mind knows better.
*A heart in love don't know any better, it tends to take only the good out of most statements.
*Between the 2 love always win that fight.
*I'm a confused mass now.
*The mind want you to never comeback around.
*The heart just want things to be how we know they can be.
*Which is right?
*What outcome would be best? How would I know?
*Questions I'll never get the answers to out of you, who clearly can careless.
*So as you celebrate your 26th birthday today
*I guess it's only normal that you will occupy my mind all day.
*But baby it's sad to say, I don't know if you attended to make me feel this way, but I never though I see the day that I, I don't love you anymore.
*I ask my self this, Is it true? Is that coming from the mind? or is it the heart attempt to mend itself?
*And the battle continues, God will it ever end?

No Action In Free Agency, Means Maintaining The Core Of The Reds.

Well If you was expecting the reds to make a lot of noise, or rock the MLB world in the winter meetings, sorry. No reason to be disappointed. The reds are doing what I feel, in my opinion is most important thing, and that's keeping the core of this group they have together. Late yesterday evening Jay Bruce agreed to a 6 year extension worth 51 million dollars, with a club option that could make it a 7yr, 63 million dollar deal. That's the biggest splash the reds have made this off season. The reds didn't have big expectations going into winter meetings, but with the young talent they have, it's not like they need to sign any free agents. They came into winter meetings looking for only a lead off hitter, which is not a big need, they can go with Stubbs or Phillips and be just fine. They also came in looking for a left handed power hitter to come off the bench, which is also not a big need if they'll just sign Nix back, he can fill that void in my opinion. They found neither, instead they exercise the 11 million dollar option of Arroyo and also gave him an extensions, they also brought back utility man Miguel Cairo, picked up $1.75 million option for OF Gomes, and that was pretty much the reds winter meetings. The Reds are not done yet, don't expect anything big, but SS Cabrera, C Hernandez, RHP Harang, OF/IF Willie Bloomquist, IF Cairo, OF Jim Edmonds, LHP Rhodes, RHP Mike Lincoln, RHP Russ Springer are all free agents. Harang has signed with Padres, reds declined his option, I can see Cabrera coming back at a cheaper price, after his 4 million dollar option was declined, Janish will most likely come into 2011 as the starter with prospect Zack Cozart also waiting in the wings, he'll make it to the show sometime in 2011. They want to bring Hernandez back and pair him up with Hanigan again, a duo that led the NL in hitting, both these guys in my opinion bridging the gap until prospect Devin Mesoraco is ready. The Reds had a 2010 Opening Day payroll of around $76 million, without a doubt that will increase with all the big names facing arbitration for the first time like Cueto, Volquez, and Votto, all who are expected to get BIG raises for 2011. Some other key role players are also facing arbitration like, Nix, Burton, Bray, and Corky Miller, it'll be interesting to see what of these players, and remaining free agents come back. You can expect your key role players from the big year last year to be back like the Hernandez, Nix, Cueto, Volquez, Votto, as for the smaller names like Springer, Bloomquist, Bray, Burton, Lincoln all these guys can possible be brought back with small, minor league type deals, the guys who came along late last year like Bloomquist, Springer it wouldn't make much sense not to bring these guys back. Two guys i'm unsure about is Cabrera, and Edmonds. These are very polish vets that are very well respected around the league and can still play defensive with the best of them, the reds will be battling with the rest of the league for these guys, don't be surprise if these two guys find themselves in other uniforms come 2011, I know I won't be. I guess all left to say is stay tune, keep up with me, and check my blog (jgdunn.blogspot.com) periodically and I'll continue to bring you the information as I get it.

Why Is Meyer Receiving Praise For His Decision? A Action That Came To Late In My Opinion.

So i'm listening to the radio about 8 hours after the announcement that Florida Gator football coach Urban Meyer said he was going to step down effective after the gators upcoming bowl game. The guy on the radio, I can't remember his name, but he was filling in for Jason Smith, on Jason Smith's all night radio show. This guy was basically praising Meyer for the decision saying this was a real men decision to step away from his prestigious job, and step away from millions to take care or spend more time with his family blah blah blah, and it seems everyone is. He also started to bash callers that was texting and emailing in, basically Gator fans that was upset of his decision, now i'm not against the guy for what he did, cause quite honestly I can careless, but for a reason I can't tell you to, here this guy basically praise Urban Meyer for this decision kind of got under my skin. If I heard correctly, Urban Meyer kids are adults and a 2nd year college student, high school senior on the way to college. He does have a young son, which is his youngest that about 12 if i'm not mistaking. Make no mistake I see you giving the man SOME respect, but your giving this guy respect as if your praising him. How could you? No it's never too late to be a father to your kids, or your fatherly duties don't stop after your kid turns 18, but to be the father that requires you to leave your job, it's too late for that! I'm not a bitter Gator fan, I'm actually a Vols fan, so i'm glad to see this happen for the september showdown. I'm also a College student with no kids, and after high school you start to find your own way in life and grow not apart from your parents, but into your own adult self, don't try to praise this guy as if he some kind of trendsetter or something to say he's a good remodel for this, I disagree tremendously. He continue to say he never made it to none of his girls sports games, or been able to celebrate some their accomplishment. Urban how about being at the dinner table every night, how about seeing your kids every night before they go to bed, or been able to ask them how they day went, and when it was a problem having a face to face sit down and not over the phone. Make no mistake I'm not involved in this man everyday life, but I have a good understand of how time consuming his job can be. Sorry Urban but you lost that time, you lost the most important times, the time you some reason think is still there, you will soon find out it's not. Urban Meyer going to find himself sitting at home board out of his mind, or getting on his son nerves trying to hard to make up for lost time, the girls are gone, they're off into college living that college student life, and as athletes they don't have much time for you for this reason I don't see him coaching this year but won't be surprise if he was back next year. In closing, I seriously believe this is the way of the american parent now days. Urban Meyer situation is much different because of who he is and the profession he's in, but its all similar in the same way. The American parent now days are confused, I know you got to make the money to pay the bills, but don't try to be a parent when it's too late, it more to being a parent then taking care of all your kids financial needs, and seem most parents learn that too late, at least the older parents, don't try to build a stronger bond with your kids, when they're adults and out in the world on their own. I know you wonder if they'll resent you for, and if there bitter about, all that floats around in your head. Well let me be the one to tell you that yes they will, you trying to make it all better would only make it worst. As for young parents, your mistake and inability to be a good parent started when you got pregnant for most of you, now you still trying to live the life of a young adult in your 20's and leave the child with someone else while you club, date, and do whatever else it is you do beside be a good parent, but we gone save that topic for a whole new day. As for Urban Meyer, I don't know the man,I can't call him a bad parent, I'm quite sure his kids never needed anything and even though it more to been a parents, most parents can provide that for their kids. All i'm saying is that, your reasoning for stepping away now, would've been much better had you did say about 10 years ago, now I can't see it benefiting anybody not even your self-concious.

Cincinnati Bengals @ New York Jets

So as bad as I don't want to spend none of my Thanksgiving day writing this preview, I guess it's my duty too. Unlike most Cincinnati Bengals,I still look forward to watch the game later this evening, and the remaining games they have on their schedule. It's not like I can deal with the losing, it's because believe it or not the Cincinnati Bengals is not a bad football team, this team actually has more talent across the board than most team in the NFL if not all. Now I know talent alone don't produce wins, if it did we would have more than 2 wins, but talent is definitely the best starting point. Out of 10 games the Cincinnati Bengals has played, there hasn't been one game that they we're not in, and it only been 2 games were they lost by more than 1 score. I know some will say, that have yet to face the hardest part of their schedule which maybe true, but this time is a team that will be able to play with anybody, and I believe they can beat anybody, when they defense show up, because of how dangerous the offense can be. You may not know because of the record, but this offense is in the top half of the league ranking wise but that's another conversation for another day. On this Thanksgiving Thursday the Cincinnati Bengals will be visit the 1st place 8-2 New York Jets. I don't want to take nothing away from this Jets football team but the fact that they have only played 1 game against a team with a winning record and have struggle so much that there last 5 wins has come in comeback type of fashion, I give the Bengals a better chance to win then most would. Do I think they will win??? Well I know this team is as desperate as any, I also see a lot of fight in this team, and yes I think if they come and play they could beat the Jets. The fan in me is going to give the Bengals a 24-21 Win over the New York Jets. Call me crazy, but I really think the Bengals have a chance in this game, two things that's going to decide the game tonight, turnover ratio, and the Bengals defense. If Cincinnati can limit there turnovers, and the defense can put together a game like they did in their 2 wins giving up a combined 17 points, and not the over 20 they have allowed in all 8 losses, Cincinnati will win this game.

Bengals Pre-game Report- Carson in a Boot? T.O. is Talking About Ben, Steelers Locker Room Shooting Back and "Average" Revis.

I think most people have seen the incident this past Sunday when Richard Seymour of the Oakland Radiers, basically punch and dropped might I add Ben Rothlisberger Of the Pittsburgh Steelers. I think I speak for most Cincinnati fans when I say I loved it! T.O. on the TOcho stated his feelings on it. “I liked it,” Owens said. “He’d probably do it again for another 25, A hockey player would have took that and kept on tickin’,” T.O. said. “It just shows you how soft Ben is.” T.O. also felt the urge to say "Yeah, Ben’s soft. The guy who played against the Colts with a pair of Mr. Potato Head arms, who made no attempt to tackle safety Aaron Francisco after an interception that resulted from a T.O. short-arm effort, and who made no effort to recover what appeared to be a fumble by Francisco is calling a guy who got knocked to the ground by a cheap shot “soft.” Ochocinco said that Seymour “can’t be swinging on people out there on the field,” comparing the conduct to the WWE. T.O. preferred to invoke a different sport.
I don't think T.O words got around to much of the league, it's not like a lot of people tune into the show, I don't really care to look up the ratings of the show, but I can remember reading a article that basically stated how amazingly low they were. It did get back to the steelers locker room, Ryan Clark, defensive back heard about T.O. feelings on Roethlisburger. On twitter Ryan Clark said, " to T.O. calling ben soft all I can say is That's my teammate, that's my quarterback. As I cry and my lips quiver. Wait, that was him Lol." Makes for an interesting Week 14, Dec. 12th meeting between the two teams. T.O. being T.O. he's been talking a lot lately, last Monday when the Redskins was destroyed by the eagles he tweet'd "What a way to justify that new contract." talking about the contract extension McNabb signed earlier that day. As for this week's opponent the New York Jet's T.O. believe it or not has talked about them as well. What did he say? T.O. calls Jets all-pro corner Darrelle Revis‘ an average cornerback saying "Just an average corner to me,Everybody has assessed his abilities as far as what he did last year, shutdown corner, this and that. He did very well last year. Truly great cornerbacks do it year after year. I think he did it one year, and everybody made a lot of hoopla about it. I think, you know, he started feeling himself, then he wanted to come out and say that I’m a slouch,” All this going back to January when Revis called Randy Moss and Terrell Owens a pair of “slouches”. That's should make the game a little more interesting to watch.
Getting back to football, Carson Palmer didn't practice at all this week, was actually wearing a boot on his foot. So how hurt is Carson? No hurt enough to sit out coach Marvin Lewis said Tuesday, "Carson will play on Thursday night." He's listed as probable on the injury report, and some is calling it a game-time decision, but Carson has went on record saying he will be playing. Roy Williams and Antwan Odom showed up on the injury list as OUT, in the secondary Ghee, Joseph, and Murray are all questionable, expect to see all three of them play in their respective roles.
MY BENGALS-JETS GAME PROJECTION COMING TOMORROW!!! HAPPY HOLIDAYS FOLKS!

Bengals-Bills Postgame remarks

BENGALS COACH MARVIN LEWIS
On the game:
“I told the guys I wish I had a magic word to fix where we are, other than the fact that we’ve got to figure out a way internally and individually to not make the critical errors that we’re making at critical points in the football game. Today we had a first half where we did a lot of things right, and we obviously were down a little bit (with injuries) in the secondary as the game went on. We’ve got to figure out a way to limit their (the opposing team’s) production. Getting the receivers and the ball carriers tackled is the biggest thing.

“Offensively, we play, and then we have a critical error that really hurts us. We’re playing our tails off for most of the game. They’re playing right down to the (last) fibers of their bodies and giving everything they’ve got. Guys going back in when they’re injured, but they’re playing their tails off.

“We’ve got a game here upon us quickly. Somehow we’ve got to put this behind us and move forward. We can’t dwell on this one. Obviously there are a lot of corrections to be made, and we’ll see where we are personnel- wise, but we’ve got to move forward.”


CARSON PALMER
What is your assessment of the first and second halves?
“Two different games. We obviously didn’t finish, and in this league it’s about finishing. Finishing football games is what wins, and obviously, we didn’t win and we didn’t finish the game.”

Is this team’s psyche fragile? When things go bad it seems to snowball so quickly:
“I don’t know if that’s the mentality, but that seems to be what you’re talking about with the snowball effect. It’s been one mistake turns into two, turns into three, and then you’re down 10 when you were up seven. That’s obviously a difficult place to be in as a team. As many football games as we have left, we have to fight that feeling, we have fight that mentality and find a way to believe in ourselves and find a way to build some confidence in each other and have that snowball, instead of the opposite.”

You said this week chemistry has been a problem with this team. Is that fixable in a season?
“I think so. The only way to fix something like that is repetitions and work. We did a better job today of, for the most part, guys being in the right spot, lining up in the right places and motioning at the right times and doing all those things offensively. But it’s too late in the season to be talking about building chemistry right now.”

Should we be talking about guys not lining up in the right spot after Week 10 of an NFL season?
“No. That wasn’t an issue today, like I said. But, no, we shouldn’t be talking about that or building chemistry. That’s what the off-season is for. That’s where you build that chemistry, over the summer going into training camp. That’s not something we should be talking about now.”

The guys in there (locker room) made the point of saying the effort is still there, but losing 35-0 in the second half at home to a 1-8 team might suggest otherwise:
“Yeah, I’ve played against teams that turned it in and have quit and I’ve been on teams one time where that was the case, but I don’t believe that’s the case with this team. For the most part we’re fighting to get back in the game when they took the lead, and we just didn’t make enough plays, or the right plays when the time came upon us.”

T.O. (Terrell Owens) said you’re a terrible team. Do you agree?
“I wouldn’t use that word, but we’re not a good team, obviously. We’ve won two games and we’ve played 10. I would use a different word.”

On the interception in the end zone, did that guy surprise you being there?
“He definitely surprised me. I knew where he was, and I tried to fit the ball in, and I shouldn’t have thrown it. I should have tucked the ball in and not thrown it.”

You said you wouldn’t use T.O’s word, but what word would you use?
“Not good. We’re not a good football team.”

TERRELL OWENS
What is it like to be part of a crazy game like this?
“Crazy? What’s crazy is the fact that we’re just terrible. That’s just plain and simple. When I say we, that’s me included. Let me look you in the eyes and emphasize — we are terrible. Terrible. I have no answers for you. I have no sound bytes for you. All I know is, right now, we are terrible. Maybe if everyone wants to blame me, it’s my fault. Maybe I am bad luck. At this point, it is unthinkable — unbelievable — that we can lose a lead like that. And by no means am I taking anything away from the Buffalo Bills. Those guys are talented. They put on their pads and uniforms just like everybody else does. You go into every Sunday thinking it’s an opportunity to win a game, and they took full advantage of that today. I don’t understand. I don’t know what it is. We find ways to lose the game. You would think that, having a lead going into halftime, we could capitalize and build off that. We may go 2-14 at the rate we’re playing.”

Do you know why you were so good in the first half and not so good in the second?
“I have no idea. We’re not good, period.”

Do you take any good out of the first half?
“Why? How can you? You play four quarters, two halves. You play two halves, four quarters, 60 minutes — however you want to look at it. We’ve made enough mistakes in the last (seven) games to last a lifetime.”

Did Buffalo make any adjustments, or was it self-destruction?
“It’s been that way all year. After our second win, it has been self-destruction. I have no clue, no answer for you. I can’t put a finger on it. I don’t know what to do. It’s not like we’re not putting in the effort in practice. We can’t win for losing.”

Is this a breaking point for you?
“I don’t know. I can’t speak for everybody. As I mentioned earlier, we are terrible. I don’t blame the fans for booing us. I don’t blame people for not wanting to come and see the performance we’ve put up the last (seven) ball games. I don’t blame them.”

It’s a short week with a game Thursday. Can the team bounce back?
“I’m going to pray we do. I’m hoping so. I hope we don’t take the disappointment into the game against the Jets. They have a great defense, and their offense is explosive. If we play with the performance that we played with today, it’s over — it’s lights out. We’re playing for pride. We’re going to see what everybody’s made of, myself included.”.............................

CARLOS DUNLAP
What happened to the game plan out there in the second half?
“The defense came out and shut them down to start. A few guys got nicked up and we weren’t able to find our rhythm. I’m at a loss for words right now.”

Did the Buffalo defense do anything different out there?
“Yeah, they made some adjustments. We were doing OK getting some pressure, but once the ball got in their court, we weren’t able to do what we did in the first half. In the first half, we made them play our game, but in the second half, we played their game. We couldn’t execute the things that worked well for us in the first half.”

What were the adjustments they made?
“They converted on turnovers. If you have a turnover, you get momentum. At the end of the day, you have to play football.”

What does this defense have to do in order to get better?
“Play like we did in the first half (of this game) and finish all four quarters.”


REGGIE KELLY
You put up a lot of points, but didn’t come away with the win:
“It’s hard to put into words. I’ve played 12 seasons, and this has to be one of the more disappointing games I’ve played in. We’re a team, and we’ll continue to fight. We’re not going to give up, and that’s a promise.”

This team had high expectations. Is there a way to explain how things have happened this season?
“Every day, the guys come in and practice, regardless of our losses. Everyone is still working hard and that’s not going to stop. After you put so much work in and put your heart into it, it’s disappointing. It takes your breath away. We’re not going to give up. We have six more games to go out and fight hard. We can still turn this around and end the season on a high note.”

It was a drastic change in the second half:
“It was a drastic change. I still felt like we would come back and win the game. I remember starting to pick back up. I really don’t know what to say, but we’ll keep fighting.”

You say ‘everyone will keep fighting.’ Are you confident that will apply to everyone as a team?
“I’m confident. I think the veterans owe it to the younger guys to show them that we need to keep fighting. The NFL is full of ups and downs. You can’t just fight when you’re playing well.”


Reggie, is it hard to describe what just happened?
“There aren’t words. You have to come out and play football. You can’t play football for one half.”

Did they spread you out in the second half?
“They spread it out the entire game. At the end of the day, we just have to line up and play football.”

LEON HALL
Did they spread you out more in the second half?
“I don’t know if they did more than they did in the first. They were down, so they had to put the ball in the air.”

What did the injuries do to you?
“It’s unfortunate when you don’t have your starters out there. But you have to make plays, regardless of who’s one the field.”

It looked like there were some communication issues:
“None that I’m aware of. We had some guys that were left open.”

Steve Johnson was particularly effective:
“Yeah, they did a good job getting him the ball.”

How did they do it?
“They just put him in different areas.”

Did you slip on his last touchdown play?
“It was a false step early on. That was the go-ahead touchdown if I’m not mistaken. You can’t have that in the red zone.”

What about the touchdown after that — it looked like you slipped:
“He came from the other side. That wasn’t my guy, but he was wide open. You can’t have those as a defensive backfield.”

Are you surprised at what Ryan Fitzpatrick did to the defense?
“Considering how we have been playing on defense — yes. We had high expectations. The injuries didn’t help, but that doesn’t matter.”

This being a contract year for Marvin Lewis, are you concerned that there may be a coaching change?
“I don’t see it happening, but I don’t make the rules. We have to put this behind us today and come back tomorrow to work on the Jets"

ANDREW WHITWORTH
With regard to the second half — it’s a matter of adjusting to adjustments, isn’t it?
“Yeah, but it’s also turnovers. The last couple of games, the early turnovers killed us. In this game, the late turnovers killed us. With a big lead, the only thing you shouldn’t do is give the ball back with a turnover, and that’s what we did. We continue to bury ourselves.”

What did you think of the holding call that negated the Terrell Owens touchdown?
“It’s terrible. There was nothing I could do. I got my legs kicked out from under me and the guy drove me over the top of another guy’s legs. I didn’t hold the guy — I got pinned and basically fell down. There was no way I could have pulled him down.”

You went down because your legs were pinned?
“He hit me and my legs got kicked out. He actually got up and said ‘Wow, what a catch’ and started to run down the field. Next thing I know, they called a holding penalty.”

This is Murphy’s Law, isn’t it?
“We don’t really have a lot of things going our way. You have to be a competitor and you have to fight. When guys have their backs against the wall, they have to fight together. If we can’t do that, this will keep happening.”

They fought back on the road and came from behind:
“Yeah, you have to give them credit. They fought their tails off, came back, and won the game. We made it easy for them with the turnovers. When you do that, you’re in a lot of trouble.”

A painful love

How I suffered in your love
How I loved you with all my senses
and how your love never brought me comfort!
How bad your love merely brought me pain!
Your love was nothing but a sizzling desert with no rain!

Your love makes me feel
that there is always something missing!

Like a rail with no train!
Like a genius with no brain!

Like a bed with no pillow!
Like a lonely life with no fellow!

Like a lock with no key!
Like a fish out of sea!

Your love was handicapped!
Like a bird with no wing
Like a bird that can not sing!
Like a crown with no king!

Like a knight with no white horse!
Like a soldier with no force!

I loved you passionately
From my head to toes
I kept on loving you
Even when your heart froze
your love was nothing
but a throne with no rose

But why do I blame you now?
When I am the one who chose
I chose to walk through your hopeless way

I knocked your door that day
I knocked your door
Even when I knew its closed
Even when I was sure!
I didn't turn my back and walk away!

Eye Opener to Open Marriages and Relationships.

When I was first ask to write about this, a couple things went through my mind. One was hell no, two was maybe but how can I when I don't know nothing about this subject Well here I am, after doing a little research, and seriously opening up my mind to really think about both sides of the argument of open marriage here I am punching the keyboard. Originally I was afraid to touch this subject, because of the amount of danger it carries, then I had remember that I'm a un-married single man and had no reason to be afraid. Make no mistake I'm not for open marriage, never have been, and probably never will have to worry about making a decision on it. When I used to here about or see anybody who was in an open marriage or open relationships, I used too frown upon it and who ever maybe involved in it, but after seriously sitting down thinking about and asking some honest people about it, and there experience with it, no I'm not for it, but my disagreement and disgustedly feeling I used to have for it is not that strong strong anymore. I no longer have anything against people who choose this style of relationship as they preference, would I get involve with someone that's in an open marriage or relationship? No, but that's just me. You can find traditional marriages that has last 30, and 40 years or more, it's what we like to call "real love" or "true love". How rare is this though??? Very rare to find these stories of perfect marriages. Of course I know it always wasn't easy times for people who has been married this long, but when you can stay married for that amount of time that is special, that's why I call them type marriages perfect marriages. A few couples are fortunate, the rest figures out a way to settle for less than perfect. For some people believe it or not, for whatever reason traditional marriage makes them miserable. I know what your thinking, once you get to that point, it time for a divorce right? Divorce is not always the answer, some people still love each other unconditionally and just as much if not more as they did when they decided to get married. I think that some people just realize what most of us are afraid to face, which is that expecting one person to fulfill everyone one your needs is unlikely. Now days you hear about the 80-20 rule people love to trow around. For those who don't know what it mean, the 80-20 rules says that your only gone get 80% out of your mate, but somebody comes by with the other 20 and it may look real good when you ain't getting the other 20 from your mate, what happens is you leave the 80 and go for the 20 thinking you getting more, until you find out you actually got much less than what you had. It something like that, you get the idea. Rather you want to believe it or not some people do want the whole 100, some people need the whole 100%. In the sense of the 80/20 rule, open marriage or relationships allow the couple to get the other 20 and ultimately sometimes it makes them appreciate the 80 even more than they may have before. Most people frown upon the thought or idea of an open marriage/relationship, they also frown at the people that they know is involved in one. The frowning usually occur before they even take the time to give it thought or to know the situation between the couple I used to be one of these people. Now I have a different look on this topic, I'm not saying go ask your significant other for an open marriage, or relationship. I'm not going to be the blame for you getting divorced, slapped or dumped, all I'm saying is before you do as most of do and judge or look down on a person for being involved in a relationship of this kind, check yourself because most of you is probably involved in one and don't even know it, or know but it's not an official one. Understand that it's a free country, and you don't know what a couple could be going through or what kind of understanding they have with each other. Also if you care, really sit down and think about this and maybe you'll have a better understanding of why some couples decide to go this route.

Viewing Politics and The Idea of Voting.

Well it's not been too long since polls closed this year. Everybody has stress and stress the fact that everybody needs to vote, everybody has campaign hard for there respective politicians that they like or that they favor. Me, I couldn't tell you the name of not 1 guy that ran for Ohio, which means no I didn't vote. Call me what you want, say what you want about me, but I didn't vote, I never do, and I never will, well I take that back, I did vote for Obama last presidential election but that was only cause the girl I was talking to at the time threatening to stop talking to me if I didn't vote, not for Obama, just vote at all. Shame on me right???? Believe it or not, that's really how I look at politics and everything about, rather it be presidential, senate, congress, mayors all of it is a really big joke to me. Politicians are nothing but people like you and me, well I must take that back, politicians are nothing like you and me. These people are of a different nature the come from money for the most part and all they no is money, you will NEVER see a African American man in office, or a fully black man, the close you'll ever get is a half-breed like your current president. You'll never see a person who got a degree from a community college, or only have a 2yr or 4yr degree or that was born and raised in poverty. You'll never see a person put in any office that worked a typical 9-5, that may not even have any college background but had the drive, discipline and will to retire from there respective company. These are the real american, these are the people who know not only of the ups that goes on living as an American but also the downs, these are the people who had to go through adversity, who really can appreciate good when it comes there way. How can you represent or support somebody, and you never can relate or understand the lifestyle and problems that most Americans go through??? All you see put in to office is people just with ivy league educations and lots of money, and they will continue to do whatever in there power to get richer, not thinking much of nothing about the poor or middle class. Soon there will be no middle class if you ask me, economy is not getting better and the cost to live is getting more and more expensive. The poor has no hope, they keep reaching out for help, but the rich is only going to help the rich, the middle class can't help cause they have to struggle to keep the classification of "middle class". You know people say, "You have to vote, others fought for you to have the right to vote, out of respect you must vote." I believe that it's a shame that we had to fight to vote, and that's just a example of what the country is, and has always been, and the fact that America is so f'd up is a consequence of the fact we had to fight to earn the right to vote, and many other things. Many also say, " If you don't vote, you can't complain" Well, I'm pleased to tell you that I don't complain, I do the best I can with what I got, I play the cards I'm dealt, and do everything in my power to be of some kind of assistance to others. I'm not trying to be one them negative campaign ads, or voice they been talking about, never is it my attention to discourage or try to get people to stop voting, honestly I don't care. My mother, father and brother all vote every election and I have nothing against them for that, then again it is there right. All I'm saying is, don't chastise, try to be-little, or look at me with a look of disgust when you learn I don't vote, just as it is your right to vote, it's also my right not to, the way I respect you and the way you exercise that right, I ask for me, and anybody else who don't vote, I ask that we get the same respect.

Week 8 Bengal Preview:Dunn saids "Must Win"

Well it is week 8 for our beloved Cincinnati Bengals who host the Miami Dolphins. With the Bengals being 2-4, 3 games back of the Steelers and the Ravens, this is definitely a must win situation for the Cincinnati Bengals. To be honest with the schedule they have, to even have a chance to be a playoff contender they have to win 3 of the next 4 games, games that consist of this weeks Dolphins, next week Steelers on a national stage, then the always dangerous Colts, then the up and down Bills. This is a stretch where I think the Bengals are definitely capable of winning 3 of these 4 game with 3 of them being home games, but that mean they have to win against the Steeler, or the Colts, The fan side of me say that the Bengals can win all 4 of these games, the wannabe anaylst of me says, it can't be done and it won't be done. As far as week 8 goes, it's going to be an interesting week and a offensive game in my opinion. This game could be a lot like last week minus a couple touchdown each way, it pretty clear to me that this defense is not the defense of last year, you couldn't help but think this defensive unit would be as good as last year when they finish 4th. They were a young defensive unit, that got a year older, another year of experience, but this year they are currently ranked 20th. The Miami offense is a offense that sits in the middle of every offensive category in the league, but when you consider the fact they have a lot of talent on offense and they've had a tough schedule so far this year with 3 loss all coming from division leaders(Jets, Patriots(T1st), and Steelers) this offense can be very explosive especially up against a very down and vulnerable defensive like the Bengals, not to mention they're really banged up as well. Out of all the Corner backs on the 53 man roster, Brandon Ghee is the only healthy corner back, Hall has a bad hammy, John Joesph has a bum ankles, Morgan Trent has a bad knee, we all know Pacman Jones is on the shelf for the rest of the year, Ndukwe and Williams is both hurt, and Keith Rivers will see a limited amount of snaps due to a knee problem, his back up Brandon Johnson also has a bad knee. All this spells a scary game for the Bengals defense, with the good running game of the Dolphins and the fact that Chad Henne is really hot right now, this defense is in a lot of trouble. As far as offensively, you like to think the Bengals are starting to find their mo-jo but the inconsistency makes you second guess that thought. I see the Bengals offense having another good game, no not a repeat of the explosion that we witness last week, but they will go blow for blow with the Dolphins. The Cincinnati Bengals will be able to run and pass against the Dolphins defensive, but it all going to be in the hands of the offensive line which has been very shaky and inconsistent week in and week out. One man that will for sure give them problem is Cameron Wake. This up and coming star has 6 sacks already and even though the Bengals pass protection last week was very good, they are still a team who is not good at pass blocking, Wake is a guy that's a hybrid DL/OLB, Bengals fans let's just hope he don't line up over Andre Smith. With the ailing hip of Carson Palmer, and the pass protect problems the Bengals have expect to see Cedric Benson who is averaging about 21 carries a game get the ball about 30 times, if the game is going in a way that the Bengals don't have to pass. If the Bengals are able to keep Carson protected, the pass game will definitely help, with Owens playing well, and the hot play of Jordan Shipley, not mention Jermaine Gresham, and sprinkle a little Chad in there, it could really open up the run game for Benson. For the Dolphins to win and if I was calling the D , I see them doing a lot of blitzing and testing that O-line, putting pressure on Palmer every time he drop back and forcing him into making mistakes. For the Dolphins to win offensively, Marshall will not be the man, if and when they pass the dangerous guy will be Devon Bess, and his slot abilities, with Pacman out the Bengals have no body that can keep up with the 'Wes Welker' like skill set of this guy. Be that as it may, Miami must play their game which is 65% run and 35% pass. Yes Henne is hot, but given the fact that most likely Hall and Joesph is going to play, you have to be careful cause these two guys are guys that will take the ball away. They must run Brown and Williams (who is playing the Ricky of old) and play smash mouth against that D-Line and Linebacker core. For the Bengals, the only way they can win this game is if the defense steps up, the defense really have to start strong, rather it be via turnover or 3 and outs on first few drives. Cincinnati is going to have to get up early on Miami that way they can control the game. Bottom line is this, Miami is a more complete team right now, it's not like either team is playing well this year but they're the hottest of the two, they are very balanced on offensive, and they're undefeated on the road, Cincinnati is a team that's really banged up on defense, very vulnerable, and offensively really inconsistent. All this plus the pass protection test there going to go through, I'm really hoping that Carson don't get knocked out of this game. I see the Bengals fighting hard, but falling short in a 31-28 loss to the Miami Dolphins. A loss in a must win situation, which will end their season and any hopes of winning the north or making a wild card spot for the playoffs.

A Flaw That Women Will Ultimately Hurt Themselves With

We all has flaws nobody is perfect, even though we may strive to be perfect people and strive for perfection in all things we do, perfection is impossible. Women and man different in many ways, there are the obvious ways, then the not so obvious. All Women carry a flaw that I believe hurt them and a big way. That flaw is the ability they have to not forget, and hold grudges. It's something they do to each other, to family, but mostly to the man in their life. They say women never forget, well I think we need to change that up a little bit and say they never forget the bad you do. Women have tunnel vision so bad that many times they forget about all the good I guy did for them, they forget about the times a guy was there for them no matter what, they forget about the times a guy did the unexpected, and made their day, they forget about the time when they had too much pride to fix the problem, and the guy gave in and did what it took to fix the problem, or even the time where you did something special out the kindness of your heart and when you shouldn't have. I may sound like the bitter, hurt person that can't get over a certain situation, but it's not that. I'm actually a lot different from most guys, with my ability to just let stuff go and move on. I understand that most people, like my friend that inspired me to write this cares though, cares a lot actually and rather mend it then end it. Sadly there is no solution to this problem, or if it is I definitely don't have the answer. I call this "A Flaw That Women Will Ultimately Hurt Themselves With.", because this flaw can be the reason a woman will miss out on a really good man, or will lose a good man that she already has. Man will eventually get tired of woman bring it up, every time there is a disagreement. It seem this flaw is mistakingly thought of as a skill by women in my opinion, they use it as a way too either get their way, or to try to make a guy feel bad which will then make him give them what they want. I'm a single guy so I don't have to deal with this as much, when I do encounter this problem I usually give the cold shoulder or the ignore treatment, but for someone who cares or that's in a relationship i'm quite sure it's a little different. I know it something that may feel inescapable, like something always hanging over your head and you can never do anything that may seem wrong in her eyes because you know what's to coming after it. I don't know what to tell you. All you can do is either demand that it stops, or leave. I can understand how both them things can be difficult, but this is something that won't stop and can drive you crazy. For women, stop doing this. It's not cool, it's not cute, and even if your getting your way when you do it, it's not healthy for your relationship. Understand that nobody is perfect, and that people try they best to be and do everything you want them to do. Life ain't always a dream and something you can't have it your way, settle for the person your with and when you feel like you want dig up some old dirt think of the good that he has done, if it's more dirt than good you have no reason being with that person.

A Moral Victory For Palmer in a Surprising Lost for His Team.

Anybody who watched the Bengals @ Browns games, as a Cincinnati fan your probably pissed and for good reason. The Bengals lost to the Brown was maybe the surprise of the day, Nobody gave the Browns a chance to beat the Bengals including me, even though the Bengals has definitely not been playing up to expectation. Early on the blames has mostly been put on the quarterback Carson Palmer, but blaming Carson Palmer has been the thing for the Cincinnati Fans dating all the way back to last year. Today the man you all love to blame, actually got a morale victory out of a hard lost today in Cleveland. Even though Carson Palmer will never admit it publicly, inside the guys must feel that he got some kind of a victory because of the lost to the Browns, not only was it a victory but it was also a day where he should have been able to feel the weight of the city critics lift off his shoulder.Yes it's true that we have not seen the Carson Palmer from 2005, but we also don't have the same football team from 2005. Regardless of what anybody says Carson Palmer is still one of the best QB's in the league, and he is still and always be for as long as he's playing the face of the Cincinnati Bengals franchise. I'm not necessarily here to throw numbers at you, talk about the all the good and bad games or even to write the Carson Palmer story, it's just hard to understand why Carson Palmer is so unappreciated by the very fans that he gave hope to and gave a reason to cheer too. Every year Carson has played the Bengals have made the playoffs, no I'm not saying he's the only person taking the Bengals to the playoff but he obviously make a big differences. Some say but he can't win playoff games, yeah that's true but he's not the only person on the team, he can't win it alone. I know what you thinking, "you just said he takes Bengals to the playoff every year he plays," yes I did, but I didn't say he wins games alone there is a differences. Too many fans appreciate the wrong things. I will never blame a fan, because regardless we as fan can never make a difference between win and lost, but some fans only appreciate the flash, the big mouths, the players who always in front of the camera like the Chad Johnson's of the league. Before I get into Chad and why I used him as an example, I want to make it clear that my reasoning for writing this is only an attempt to help fans be better fans. So many fans only see and know the basic of sports, in this case football. Most fans only know the minimum amount required to know to be a fan like touchdown, first down, pass, run, skill positions, and what i call the big mouths of the league. Many people never played, coach, or been involved with football on a competitive level long enough to understand the "dirty work" of football, like knowing and understand coverages, mismatches, coaches tendencies, personnel match-ups and etc. I think this is the problem with the Cincinnati Bengals fans a.k.a Carson Palmer haters. Cincinnati Bengals fans fail to realize all of the challenges Carson has to try to overcome. Chad Johnson, this guy was a damn good football player, he was a guy who also made a name for himself in the year 2005, but somehow, through all the noise he made at the end of that next year talking about trades, through all the miss camps and practices, through all the noise somehow, some way he is still the fan favorite here. Not only has all these things been a problem for the team, he also has not been good as the Chad from 2005 and seem to be declining every year also not getting any younger. Make no mistake I want Chad to do to good cause i want the Bengals to do good, but he is a problem that Carson Palmer ultimately have to put up with. You also has the bad O-line the Bengals has and the horrible offensive coordinator we have. Carson Palmer is the guy that Fans point the finger at when anything offensively goes wrong, but like my point earlier is that most fans don't understand what's behind the results of the play, they only understand the result. When they see a pass that goes high or or too low it Palmer fault, fans fail to realize that sometimes the pass must be low or high to avoid throwing a interception and be placed only where the WR can catch it, or they fail to see that there is somebody in his face every time he drop back.Cincinnati Bengals fans/ Carson Palmer haters don't understand because the play calling is so predictable it makes it hard for Carson to throw against 7 man coverage when you throwing out of a 2 or 3 receiver set, don't let me lose you. When the ball is thrown where nobody seems to be, first thing you like to say is "where was he throwing that ball?" Not understanding that the Receiver ran the wrong route and that where the ball went is where the receiver pose to be. I'm not a Chad fan, and I'm not a Chad hater, I just find it pretty amazing that when Carson mess up or fans think he messed up, everybody wants his neck, facebook is going crazy with haters saying "our QB suck", "get rid of Carson"' "whats wrong with him" and many more. Hey but when Chad F up, drop a ball, or even T.O. this year everything OK and some still may put the blame on Carson, "that was a bad pass"' "he's putting where he can get killed". How about today???? Today was a great day for Carson Palmer. Carson Palmer was the only reason the Bengals even had a chance, and sorry Bengals fans Chad was ultimately the reason we loss that chances to win. When Benson fumble, it was OK, when the field goal was blocked, nobody saw Polland being pushed on his ass so that also was OK, but when shipley was knocked out, o yea that was Carson fault, and the last drive that was going 85 yards, was cut short at 50 when, yes Cincinnati's favorite, clearly pulled the Browns corner back on the ground on a 3rd down play that a partially blind man could have saw. It was a penalty that moved us back 10 yards and out of field goal range and ultimately blew whatever chance we had to get either a field goal or touchdown. You Cincinnati Bengals fan better remember where you was before Carson Palmer. You Cincinnati Bengals fan better seriously think about where you would be without Carson Palmer, and remember what happen in 08 when he went out in week 2. You Cincinnati Bengals fans better start to appreciate what you got in Carson Palmer and give the man the respect he's EARNED! You Cincinnati Bengals fans better realize who made your favorite Chad, and who Chad was without Carson Palmer, and who he will be without Carson. As for Chad, you Cincinnati fans better find a new favorite cause Chad is in the last year and he's not likely to be coming back, then will see what he is without Carson. You have to respect a man who gave you reason to cheer, gave you a reason to buy a ticket to a game, gave you a reason to look forward to NFL football season, gave you a reason to wear your Bengals gear, allowed you to be able to buy your Chad jerseys and shirts, allow you to be able to sit in front of your TV and watch all home games and avoid blackouts,yeah Chad by a mass amount of tickets when it's close to a sell out but Carson is the reason it's even close, he allow you to be able to watch Chad on TV and allow you to hear silly thing and be entertained by Chad Johnson. Carson made all this possible for you, what have you done for him? wait don't answer just yet 2 more questions. Ask yourself What was we before Carson arrived? I don't think you have to think to hard to figure out the answer to that. Then be honest with yourself, if he's out, let go, and replaced by any QB in the draft next year, honestly as yourself what will we be without him?

Cincinnati Bengals @ Cleveland Brown Preview

As the Cincinnati Bengals make the trip up north, everybody wonders if the offense will be there. Even though the Bengals are 2-1 and coming off a win in Carolina, it pretty clear to see that the offense is out of sync. I think this a week that Cincinnati takes another step to getting into sync, Palmer will have an opportunity to get into rhythm with Chad and T.O. the way he seem to be with Shipley and Gresham. Considering what Anquan Boldin was able to do last week, Palmer and the WR's are licking their chops. You kind of know what your gone get with the Bengals D, look for them to force a few more turnovers, with the way Jake Delhome make mistakes under center don't make Cleveland much better, I personally think they'll be better of starting Seneca Wallace, but even with him u. I think Payton Hillis will see a lot of carries giving what he did to Ray Lewis and that ravens defense last week. I got this game being a Cincinnati blowout 35-3. Carson will throw for 300+ 3 TD's and 1 INT, and hopefully quiet some of the haters here at his own home, Benson gonna go for 100+ with 2 TD's.

Believe It Or Not, Money Is Not The Most Important Thing in Life

They say money is the root of all evil. I never heard a saying so true. Money carries a power unlike no other. Try to make a list of all the bad things that money makes people to do. Murder, robbery, betrayal, just a few that comes to mind first. Money carries a ability to control a person unlike anything else. Money can make the ones your closest too turn they back on you, money can also make people who has hate in their hearts for you love you like no other. How much of what you do in your life is about making money? Almost everything right? I'm not putting any blame on you for that, we have no choice cause we need money to live, money do make the world go around. What really saddens me is the way money can come between love ones and people who bond or relationships suppose to be stronger than money. Rather it's a marriage, brotherhood, sisterhood, or even the relationship between parent and child, money should never break a bond that once again suppose to be so strong. I understand that love don't pay the bills, or bonding don't get you the necessities to survive in everyday life, but money can't bring nor buy happiness. I'm not saying don't strive to make as much money as possible, because it's clear the more you have the easier life is. All I'm saying is don't let money control your mind to the point where you forget about love, friends, and family. Just don't allow it to turn you into a possessed person that nobody wants to be bothered with, cause no matter how much money you have, make, or receive money can never take the place of love, and though money may buy you friends, it'll never buy happiness. The most important thing to remember and the bottom line i guess is, when your clock runs out and it's time to go the money stays, but the impression you leave on others and the memories and love people have for you will stay here and even have a reflection on anybody that may carry your last name. For that reason along with the fact you don't know how much time is on your clock, reposition your focus on the things that, I can promise you will last longer than money.

Simple Solution To Keep Up With Life.

Life is so unpredictable, you know you just never know. We have no clue what tomorrow holds, or if we'll even see tomorrow. I don't think anybody life goes exactly as planned or exactly how we want it too, but many still succeed and unfortunately many also fail. Rather your one that succeeds or one that fails, life can really stink. Think about it, there are so many problems we can encounter in a life time, everything from illness to just another person doing whatever they can to make your life a living hell. You know what I learned? The answer to the battle with life, people, and all the problems you may encounter on your journey is to simply just keep moving, keep pushing forward. Never get stuck, never get caught standing still. Fly, run, walk, crawl, or scoot just keep moving forward. I'm not saying it will solve all your problems, but for every minute your standing still is an opportunity for more problems to catch up. You should always have goals and accomplishments that your chasing which give you no reason or time to be caught standing still. one of the best things about life is that there is always something to accomplish so no more standing still. Remember people, keep moving!!! It don't matter how fast you move, as long as you moving forward!

Week 3 Bengals Preview

It's week 3 of the NFL season and our beloved Cincinnati Bengals visit the Carolina Panthers. Let's examine our opponent first. The Carolina Panthers is a talent-rich football team, but talent alone don't win football games. The Panther is starting very slow this season, and in a way having an identity crisis in my opinion. For some reason they not riding the back of Williams and Stewart. When this team has won, it has been behind the running game. Even though it's early the Carolina Panthers are in the bottom 5 of scoring, total yards, and passing. Their 16Th in rushing, but when you have 2 backs with the ability they backs have, you should be doing much better than 16Th. The Carolina Panther will also be running Jimmy Classuen out to make his rookie debut. When you look at the panthers defensively, their not much better. They show up in the bottom half of all defensive rankings as well. All things spells out as a major disadvantage for the Panthers on Sunday. I see this game being one, where the Bengals offense find their rhythm and really starts to click, with the bad back of T.O. and the cracked ribs of Chad, I see Cedric Benson seeing the kind of carries that he was used to seeing last year, I predict him to get 20 plus carries for 100 plus yards and a touchdown, Carson will have a good game I got him throwing for a Lil over 250 and 2 touchdowns. I think the defense will continue to make strides to be a unit worth talking about, and this game will be 24-10 Cincy.

John G. DunnII

A better place

Why does hate exist? !
I think this crying world needs some rest!
Don't you think that life is hard? !
To live and survive through all this hazard!

Don't you think that life is weird? !
Some are fighting in wars
Suffering.. feeling so much pain of bleeding scars
While others are singing, dancing & drunk in bars!

Don't you think it's funny? !
that everything is going bad.. nothing goes fine
People are killed & others are tasting the nectar wine

I can't bare the changes
Of the world's temperamental stages!
I can't believe the darkness of man's heart
I guess they should be all blocked in cages!

Don't you think that life is tough? !
People are too greedy they never get enough!

Where are your feelings people.. why are you so cold? !
when will we live in peace?
When will you throw the sword?

When will we feel those fears
Of innocent children living in nightmares & fears? !

How can you ever feel the pleasure
Out of seeing other people's suffer? !

All this hatred for a stolen land? !
When will you people understand? !
why are you all so passive..
no one wants to offer a helping hand!

Don't you feel the shame?
But it's not the time to blame
It's time to get together.. why are we enemies? !
Can't we just live like sisters & brothers?
All the world come together.. come together
Lets make this world better

No More

No more love in my cold world
No more tenderness to feel
No more beliefs to be hold
No more dreams to be real

No more heartache
No more pain
No more crying for god sake
No more going Insane

No more being together
No one else to adore
No more happiness or pleasure
No more sweetness only life's sore

No more feeling warm
No more laying on my wide chest
No more sleeping between her amrs
No more feeling rest

Now I'm all alone
No more laughs and fun
All I hear is my sad and angry moans
Cause my only sun is gone

What the addition of T.O. will do for the Cincinnati Bengals

As we approach the decision for free agent Terrell Owens here in the next 48 hours or so people wonder what kind of impact he'll have if he was added to the team? I will tell you the impact he will have will be major! He'll stop any arguement of which team in the north is the favorite, hands down the Bengals will be. In my opinion their already the favor, but many say the Baltimore Ravens are. Imagine T.O. and Chad on the same field for the same team, I don't care how big their ego's are how could you stop them, don't forget about 1st round pick Jermaine Gresham, and you pick who you want to go in the slot. Also don't forget about Ced Benson as the run threat with Bernard Scott Complamenting him and on top of all that Carson Palmer throwing the football. This Will not only make this Bengals team the favorite in the North but you could make a pretty damn good arguement for them as the favor in the AFC period, they'll definitely make them the most deadliest offense in the AFC. I know your saying it takes more than offense to win, and your right it do, but do I need to say anything about this D? I think last year play should speak for itself. Additions like Adam "Pacman" Jones, Carlos Dunlap only makes this D even better. This D is unique in it on way, think about how young this D is, Rey Maualuga, Keith Rivers, Leon Hall, John J, Michael Johnson, Peko should I continue? Don't forget about the older Vets like Antwan Odom, Dehani Jones, Brandon Johnson,Robert Gathers, and listen can go on and on. This D is young, and this is another year together under one the best Defensive minds in football Mr. Mike Zimmer who led the D that was 4th in the Nfl last year. Bottom line is this, Adding T.O. to this team will definitely help you more than it will hurt you, talk about having the perfect mix of run pass, or many weapons on offense to choose from, to not add T.O. was a big mistake earlier this year, let's hope they don't make the same mistake twice. I'll be at camp this weekend, I got my fingers crossed, let's hope T.O. is there!

My Roller Coaster Love for You.

Sometimes I just wonder
why did I love you?

Did I love you
For your charming hazel eyes?
Or because your lack of care I feel you have for you and I?


Did I love you
For your sweet and sexy face?
Or I just love the way you purposely had me on a chase?

Did I love you
For your un-resistable innocent smile?
Or is it just because you only allow me to see you every once and a while?

Did I love you
For your funny acting ways?
Or is it just because I feel like I wanna be with you everyday?

Did I love you
Because together we always have fun?
Or is it just because you want allow me to feel like we will ever turn to be one?

Did I love you
For your spotty kindness?
Or is it just because I hate to feel the loneliness?

Did I love you
For your gentle tender touch?
Or maybe because you never love me enough?

Did I love you
For your lack of giving attention?
Or is it just because you try by all means
to tell me your blueprint and intentions?

I think you only tell me what you know I want to hear.
for every time we sat in the car late night and discussed the same topic that ended with me leaving, mentally unclear and full of fear.

Did I love you
For you make me feel so un-secure?
Or is it because every now and then, for weeks and sometimes months you would disappear

Did I love you
Because with you I always feel so right?
Or is it because even when you made me feel high as a kite, I knew you would shoot me down by the end of the night?

I will probably never be able to figure out why I loved you
No, It's not just that, it's not just this
I just loved you
Because simply you are YOU!

A Middle Child's Relationship With His Mother

I Think it's rather important to start this off by saying that I love my mother to death and wouldn't change her for the world. I'm not sure if anybody knows, even family, but me and my ma don't have the best of relationship. I think our relationship went bad long time ago honestly, back in my Hughes high school days. Anybody that knew me back in my Hughes days know I was an ASS, I mean I was BAD very bad. My last year at Hughes, It got so bad to the point my mother literally gave up on me. She told the teacher "Do whatever you got to do with him, just don't call me no more.". I mean it was bad though I have to be honest. She was getting calls everyday sometimes multiple days straight. It's nothing like having your mom give up on you, nothing like that feeling. The person you care about the most, the person who's opinion is the only one that counts to you.I never really complain about it to much cause it did change me forever in not only a bad way, but a good way as well. Good, cause I woke up, I got my act together, change schools and been very successful since then and turn into the fairly decent guy that I am now. Bad, cause I've never forgave my mother for that and probably never will. Me and my mother could fool you, the same way we have my family, we can talk, hang out, laugh and smile with each other and make it seem like we have a great relationship, but as they say things aren't always what they seem to be. I can't stress to you how much I LOVE my mother, I don't want you to think I'm some idiot that don't know how bless I am to have the type of mother I have or a mother at all! Anybody that knows my mom, would probably say she's a great lady, and that she is. Beautiful, Spiritual, careful, and just a overall great human being, but none of you came up with her, not that it was hard too, but none of you effected her the way I may have. I'm not sure what, or how bad my BAD years at Hughes effected my mom, but when someone give up on you, it had to be bad right?
You know how they say the middle child is the neglected one, well that's exactly how I feel sometimes. My mom have 2 other kids. Both boys, one older and one younger than me. They say a parent always love the oldest cause they're the first born, love the youngest because they're the baby, and the middle just fit somewhere in between. Sometimes I can feel that personally. My Lil brother is a spoil brat, and my oldest do seem to have the closest relationship with my mom between the three of us. I feel that my future is bright. but it do scares me. I feel like once I leave my mothers house, I also will lose contact with my mom. That's not necessarily what I want, but that's seems to be the road we're going down. I know you thinking what is the problem? Why do you continue to feel this way after so many years. To tell you the truth it's many reason that I won't get all into but one main one. That one main reason is cause my mother attitude STINKS! My mom is a good person, but just like us all, she has flaws. Her main flaw is the attitude she has, maybe it just towards us, her kids, or me. My mom is the type that if and when she gets mad at anything she takes it out on everybody. If you know me, or ever get to know me, you will know that I don't have an attitude at all(unless it involves sports.) I never really get to mad at anything or anybody, if I do it's never for long. I rarely get upset(unless sports are involved.)I know everybody is not like me, but since I don't have an attitude, I don't associate myself or deal with people with attitudes. Rather it's a friend, girl, or parent I don't deal with it or stay around people with attitude. Attitudes is another topic for another day but my mom has one of the worst attitudes I ever seen, and this is why we'll never get along, it's like one them things I just can't deal with.
You know how they say,"Man tend to be mostly attracted to women that's reminds them of there mother, or carry similar characteristic or personality traits. Many think that's true, and there is many cases out there that proves that theory. I must say that I would never ever give a girl like my mom the time of day, I couldn't. Even if I did, There is no way it would last or workout. My mom been with the same guy for about 16 yrs and married for 14 of those, so it pretty evident that she makes a good wife, I'm not saying that she don't I'm just saying the woman I give my life too couldn't be like her as the mom I know her to be. I say that cause I can never look at my mom as anything but my mom but my last and only true love was a lot similar to my mom and also had a Stinky attitude and as you can see didn't work, I think we we're together all of 6 months, that's also another topic for another day. Because I don't have that same attitude problem my mom has, I know that when I have kids of my own some day I will raise them a lot differently but similar in some ways if that makes any sense. I'm not saying I'll be a better parent, I don't know we'll just have to wait and see, my point in saying that, is that I'll raise my kids with a different mentality, with a different take and outlook on things. A lot of things our parents do may in our opinion seem unfair, and that went on a lot in my life. I don't mean to sound bitter or nothing like that, but my little brother is spoiled and to be honest the oldest one was a one point as well. Example, there was a point in time where my oldest brother got every pair of new Jordan's that game out, and they came out on a month to two month basis back then, me I've never had a pair of Jordan's in my life! Seriously. Examples for the little brother, where do I start? He gets $20 dollars a week for lunch, when I was in high school,I was lucky to get $10. Small?? Yes, but things that kids can pick up. When I was in high school I had to get a job to get things I wanted, my baby brother on the other hand get anything he ask for and more! At the same age as they we're when they got showered with these things, I never had anything. don't get me wrong, I never intend to sound as if I was bummy, cause had more than most, just didn't have it like they did. I know I wasn't the best kid in school but my brothers wasn't angels either, especially the little one. The oldest was a good all around student. I believe kids she be treat as close to equally as possible, and I command my mom for equally providing the things we needed to survive, but no matter how closed minded you want to be the material things count too especially at that age. I feel there has always been favoritism and it's never been towards me. I'm better for it today, because I don't need the material things now days to be happy, or to feel good about myself. I don't need the nice ride, or the Biggest TVs or the newest hot shoes, and latest fashion gear(whatever is "HOT" now days.)Ha don't I sound like that neglected middle child people talk about???
To close this out, once again I must say I love my mom to death, and owe her the world. Rather good or bad she has influenced me in both ways and help me to become the man I have grown to be. As we grow from babies, to toddlers, kids, teens, adolescents, young adults, to adults(If that's the right order) we come up under our parents wing, under our parents supervision. I understand we our raised by our parents and we learn from them and there parenting techniques no doubt. I have also grown to learn, that we'll never be a spitting image of our parents, we'll never grow up to be the exact way they want us to be, and will never grow up and hold on to every lesson or thing they may have passed down to us. Why??? Simply because we grow up differently, we are raise differently as well. I guarantee our parents didn't raise us exactly how our grandparents raised them. And this is not a bad thing at all cause the world changes, new trends start, new patterns start and as time goes, we get wiser, we develop better techniques and sometimes we have to teach and learn differently as the things around us change. Something I like to call growing on the fly. As parents(Which I'm not one yet)we always say we want to give our children the life we never had, teach them things we had to learn the hard way. Understand that no matter how hard you try, your children will never be exactly how you want them to be. The best you can do is teach them and raise them to the best of your ability. My mom did a hell of a job with us, I hear all the time,"Your parents raised a fine young man" that being true, I'm sure I didn't turn out the exactly how my mom wanted me to be, but I'm sure she is satisfy with how I turned out. What my mom did was provide us with a great Platform, she taught us the core values of life, the most important things in life, how to work, how things may not go your way all the time, how to earn things, she rewarded us, and she disciplined us when necessary, she also shared lessons with us that she went through, bad and good, in attempt to show us that nobody is perfect, though I may never have the same relationship I had with my mom back when I was born up and til 2006, or the same type relationship my brothers have with her, I can always be grateful and thankful for the platform she provided me with so when the day come that I have kids of my own. Amazing with all that said, I just realized in a sense my kids will possess something that my mom once gave to me.

If only you can see

If only you can see my eyes now
you will read all the untold words
If only you can see through them
you will understand that for me you are the world

If only you can see the smile on my face
when i receive your email, message or phone call
you will know that you have captured me all in all

If only you can see what happens to me the moment we meet
you would understand after 4 years why I get so upset.
If only you can feel how fast my heart beat when i'm in your presents
you will know that you are the only one who makes me feel complete

A Little Lesson in Love for us Soft Hearted Guys

I had a friend of mine say to me "Dunn bro, Why do I fall in love so easily man, I'm such soft dude, man I be out here falling in love with girls quick, I get easily attached man, I need to get help cause i'm tired of getting hurt, having a broken heart and hurt feelings." My reply was "Bro don't feel bad, thats me times two, I been in love so much as a 21 year old, sometimes I think i'm gone run out of love before I even find me a wife." Talking to him for a lil bit, I told him that I will write this article specifically for him and see if it could help him out with his situation. Man that love thing is tough. We all are made differently, some of us are made to be the soft type that gets easily attached to people we are attracted too. I use to think that I was the only one but I see you are the same way. Bro, let me tell you, if anybody know your pain it's me, i'm the softest dude there is when it comes to this. From the outside looking in you can never tell man but I done fell in love so many times and been shot down, heart broke and rejected each time, thats why i'm single today. You ever been so in love with a person that you allow them to use the shit out of you? Not only do they use you, but you enjoy it, you like it, deal and put up with it just cause you want to be in their presences, just cause anyway possible you won't to be part of them. With that said man, the most important thing is never love someone more than you love yourself, Is that possible? Yes trust me it is, and when you allow that to happen your in BIG trouble. From that point on that person control your life and if you get the right one they will use that to their advantage and not think twice about it. I seriously know that it can be really tough getting through this especially when the one you have fell for don't want to have nothing to do with it. It is very important that you don't change yourself. Love always make us want to change ourselves, rather it's good or bad love always makes us want to change are craft especially when we like a person that don't want to have nothing to do with us, we figure that if we change what we THINK or they say they don't like maybe then they'll develop a liking for us. So untrue this is, 99% of the time people never give you the REAL reason why they don't like you, they give you a reason that is good enough to get them pass the moment, think about it bro, me and you do it too, everybody guilty of that, so what the point of changing yourself? The only time it's ok to change yourself in my opinion is when your married, and with the one you will be with for eternity, then it's ok to change in efforts to make ya'll a better couple. Nobody knows why it so much harder to fall out of love with a person, nobody know how to ease the pain away. Me, I don't know how I do it a lot of times, I use my career a lot, me being so in love with my career it always give me something to fall back on. Bro you got to stay in touch with your hobbies, figure out the things you can do that takes your mind off everything and do them, You want the same thing in a career i do but you probably don't love as much as I do, but there are things you love so much that it grabs your intention totally and nothing else matter for the time your involved in those things. There is no blueprint to falling out of love, I wish it was, if it was i'll kill for it. I have so many love stories for you that all end badly, that for more 1 on 1 type thing. I don't know why it work that way man, why we can have the ones we don't want, and not get the time of day from the ones we want. I guess that how you know you have the one, when that day come that you meet someone you fall for, and they like you back just as much if not more I guess that how you know there the one. It's important that you remember that your young man, 20 with a very bright future, remember what's more important in life right now, and focus on those things.I know a lot of the guys we know mutually have relationships, and when your whole circle has relationships it do make it a little harder but we have to wait our turn develop a sense of patiences. I feel like i'm not giving you much in this article man but this is a tough subject to try to help somebody on, there's really no right or wrong way to accomplishing this problem, you kind of have to develop your own way bro, you know i'm here and will do whatever in my power to help you out. May your life be forever changed when you find that happiness your pursuing. I can't wait to be there when you exchange them vows, remember to keep your nose out the sky, keep your head to the clouds and know bro that one day man one day the special lady gone come and change your life! Good luck Love you brother!

Firefighter Combat Challenge and The Fireman That Compete.

Let me start by saying that, my love for the job and anything associated with the job is stronger than my love for anything else in the world. Also, let it be known that I have meet some of the most coolest, friendly, and best people in the world from the fire service. Most of my friends are or was a part of the fire service at one point of time, and I’m pretty sure that as I get older and more experienced that I will meet new and more wonderful, unique and nice people from the fire service.
I felt it was necessary to let that be known, because most of what I have left to say will probably upset some people, especially the brothers of mine that participates in the famous Scott's Firefighter Combat Challenge. Now as we know this event is like the competitive sport specifically for firefighters, that simulates some of the everyday skills and maneuvers that we have to perform. Most people that compete are firefighters or have some kind of relation with the fire service. I compete in my first ever event couple months ago, I did O.K. for a first timer and so did my team.
The event in itself is fun, I had a blast, but it’s not the event that poses as the problem to me, it is the people that participate, yes that mean the firemen. I love my brothers to death and have the utmost respect for anybody who do this job, pursuit the job, or have any ambition to do this job. Some people that compete and do the challenge are some of the most cockiness, arrogant, and big ego possessed SOB’s I’ve ever meet in my life. I may come of a little judgmental and stereotypical but I don’t care this is my blog and I’m say whatever the hell I want, however I want to say it, you don’t like there is a X in the right hand corner, go click that.
I guess I give the guys in this profession too much credit. I view them like some of public do, as these most wonderful, heroic, night & shine & armor type guys. Completely for getting that they’re human beings like your local mailman, or your family attorney, they put they pants on the same way everybody else and yes they shit stank like everyone else as well. Let most of these guys tell or show it should I say, they shit don’t stank, and they are a different breed of human than everybody else. These guys walk around with their chest out, muscle man shirts on, eating their fruit and veggie sandwiches with their jug of protein mix; making protein shakes every 5 min.
When it comes to working out, MAN! Totally different ballpark. They have to be the fast, have to be the strongest, have to have the most top finishes, and have to possess the most awards. Put crazy amounts of weight on a bar and MAX OUT. I never understood maxing out, never will. I mean how much are you really doing lifting one rep of anything? SERIOUSLY?? They have to be in the mainly clubs and group, and when inside that group they have to be the best in that group.
If you must be Mr. strong man, and that wannabe onyx of guy, that’s fine. What really gets to me and really hit me the wrong way is, when these guys feel they’re better than somebody else, when they look down at someone as if they a giant and people should bow down to them. (I tried not to use this is as case and point but it’s an perfect example so here it is) I’m currently and a Firefighter agility class. I guess you can call it “the place where combat soldiers are created” Some of the people that participate in class are guys that been around a while, already did most of the stuff we do and already have at least a year of firefighter combat experience under their belt. If I took you to a workout one day, I bet a week’s pay you could point out the area inside the facility where these guys are. No, it’s not cause they’re a lot bigger and stronger, or cause they look any different than anybody else except me (only African American) but it’s because every morning they come in and run to they lil corner where all guys like them go and talk and speak among each other as if they the only ones in the room. I mean you can literally feel the vibe and body language waves that said “I’m the shit” coming off their body as they walk pass you. They walk right pass don’t speak to you, if they look at you it’s a look as if to say, “What are you waiting for, you better acknowledge me.”
I’m just now getting in to this Firefighter Combat sport, but I’m starting to believe that it taught to be this way, like it a club that you must work your way into, and once you graduate or get accept to this club you get your ASS-HOLE card. The instructor gave these guys instructor T-Shirts so I guess that gives them the right to be different to be better than me and my classmates. Even during workouts, they yell and scream at the students as they workout, I guess they call it encouraging them, but nothing they saying is usually positive. I try to tell them, if you really trying to encourage someone, its call constructive criticism, yell and scream but make sure what’s coming out your mouth is positive.
I could go on all day about this but I’m not. I’ve had a total wakeup call in the last few weeks, I use you to be that guy that couldn’t get combat challenge off my mind, who couldn’t stop thinking about the next time I was gone, who wanted to be fast rookie ever, who lost sleep thinking about Lexington and worlds in Myrtle Beach at the end of the year, that WAS me. Now, I can careless rather I ever compete again, I can careless if I ever get a top ten finish, I can careless if I make the 5 man time I’ll be trying out for in the next month or so. It just not that important as it was a couple months ago when I was getting ready for my first event. A good friend of mine that’s a lil older, compete as a Cincinnati state student before and was pretty successful he told me “Dunn, as I got older in the combat world, I learned that most people, the challenge defines them, it makes them who they are. Whatever you do don’t get so deep into it that it defines you.” If it turns me into what I have been witness to the last few weeks I not be around it much longer. I can’t be that guy who better than a brother who isolate myself and my team from the rest of the fireman family. People it is a brotherhood, you see the outside but just like brothers and families, when you get inside access, It’s no different, there are serious issues within as well.

Days Teach Me.....

Days teach me
To always dream
However it may never come true
But that's the best way
To live life through

Days teach me
To dream so high
Never give up and always try
Never let go or say goodbye

Days teach me
That when there is darkness
For sure dawn is the next
And when everything is so tiring
For sure there would be time to rest

Days teach me
To always care for a friend
Always be true and never pretend
Always love with no end
And the broken hearts try to mend

Days teach me
Never to feel the hate
Always be confident and never hesitate
Always believe in fate

Days teach me
That lovers meet & stay together
And others are apart
So if you are one who have been left behind
Don't cry and suffer
Just search for a new start

Days teach me
The past I must forget
And nothing needs my regret

Days teach me
To open my heart and forgive
Cause that will help me to survive and live

Days teach me
To always offer my helping hand
And never doubt in people when there is no proof
And always try to understand

Days teach me
Not to be shy
If I have done something wrong
But to admit it and be proud that I have learned
A lesson that will help me to be strong

State of the Cincinnati Reds in Month #1

I've been asked by friends, Why haven't I wrote any thing about my Reds? It because I've been too busy watching them and most of the time finding myself pissed of once i get done watching them night in and night out. One of the best thing about baseball to me, that many people say is actually a bad thing, is that there are so many games and that it is such a long season. Being a Reds fan i'm so used to saying that it's still early, so i'll say it again it still early. What's wrong with them? Well it hard to really put a finger on the main problem, because there are so many. Pitching has look good at times, but horrible most of the time! Hitting, we have had a few good games but other than that they have been non-existence. All around pitching has got off really to an unexpected slow start. As of april 23 in the MLB we rank 29th in runs and earned runs as a pitching staff,28th in ERA with a 6.03 mark, and 25th in walks. The starting pitching hasn't got off to a good start, kind of expected being that guys are not yet at mid-season form but it should be better than it is. The Starters alone has started 16 games with a 1-5 record with a 5.94 ERA. The Starter has not been able to hold leads, they have not been able to pitch deep into games. I'm not sure of the exact rank as far as innings pitched but we are defintely towards the top for inning pitch from the bullpen. The bullpen has been ok for us i guess. They have 49 inning pitched with a 6-4 record, ERA is at 5.78. Not bad at all considering how much slack they have to make up behind starting pitching. The back end has been pretty strong with Coco Cordero caring a 1-1 record with a 3.12 ERA. The one black spot the big blown save he had a week ago on the 16th of April. The hope is that as the season go on and we get deeper in the starting pitching will get better, the only one that really concerns me is Aaron Harang. Man has that guy been struggling. I can only imagine what he's going through, he just can't seem to turn things around. I was excited for him on opening day cause he actually pitched a good game. Albert Pujols was able to beat the reds by himself because the lack of hitting the reds did, but it got worst Harang's second start, and even worst his third start. In 4 starts he is 0-3 with 8.31 ERA. It not look too good for Harang if he keeps up on this pace, I was expecting a turn around this year that's why i pick him up on my fantasy baseball team, but I had no choice but to cut him loose this week. Let's just hope it gets better for him in the month of May.
As for offensively, as a team offense has also started slow. The Reds are rank 19th in the majors in average batting .242 as a team, has the 8th most strikeouts as an offense, and ranks 24th and on base percentage(.327). We only have one everyday starter hitting .300 or better and four everyday starters hitting well under .250 not going to win a lot baseball games with that. It amazing, out of 16 games, starting pitchers have a total of 10 no decision. I'm not blaming all that on hitting but they play just as big a part as the pitcher.
The good thing about where we sit right now is that it still only the first month of the season we still have over 140 games to play. Most people expected the Reds to be doing better right now but thats not been the case. Reds fans don't panic it still early, give it time, personally i don't pay the season a lot of mine until the summer get here. I watch every game, and get mad but not as mad as i do around all-star break and post all-star break. I think we will pull it together and I also believe will be in contention throughout the year. It not pretty right now but I don't see it getting much uglier.

Anger

This ill temper I have is making me mad
I blow up and I don’t know why
I wish for just a moment I could handle my anger right
I wish for just a moment I could love you right
I wish my attitude would just go away
I wish my anger would stay at bay
This outlook I have on life needs to change
This outlook I have you needs to say the same
I love you deep down inside
I wish you would see
That you’re the only princess for me

The anger I have deep in side
Comes out when I least expect it
This anger I have in me should just go away
This anger I have is an annoyance
This anger I have has messed my life up
This anger I have is stupid
Anger you have messed up my love for her
Anger you have messed up my life
Anger you have destroyed who I am inside and out
Anger you are the devil
Anger you are all that is bad
This anger I have in me has made me fight
A fight that was not worth it

Anger you made me hit the wrong person
Anger you made me do the wrong things
Anger you are the feeling that I would never miss
Anger you have caused me so much sorrow
Anger you have caused nothing but grief.
Anger just go away

Love is...........

Love is something you can't deny
It's a feeling you can't buy
It's not not for people to be sad
It's for people to be glad
It's a feeling full of joy
For all people to enjoy

Love is showing that you care
It is something that you share
you can find it deep inside
'cause it's something you can't hide
Love is for all races
It fills up all the empty spaces

Love is something you can't miss
It's a feeling full of bliss
So, just look deep in your heart
It's a masterpiece of art!

Somethings to think about when it comes to dating.

Dating can often be a tricky and frustrating experience. Navigating the complex maze of the dating world can seem daunting at times. While there is no official rulebook for playing the dating game, there are many suggestions (or "rules") that you should follow as you try to find that perfect Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Do be Receptive
If you have always been attracted to the tall, macho guy with bulging muscles and perfect swag as yall would call it, or that looks like one of the celebrities you see on TV, don't rule out a short normal size, pretty decent guy. The same rule applies to men. Just because your dream girl looks like "Barbie girl" and wears barely-there dresses doesn't mean that she's the one for you. Give those who are not "your type" a chance. Who knows--you might just have been dating the wrong type of girl all along. Opposites can and do attract.
Be on Time
Nothing shows disinterest and disrespect more than someone who is consistently late for dates. This shows that the person does not value your time and that he/she is very selfish. If it happens once in a great while, don't sweat it, because things can happen. However, if your date is late with regularity, consider moving on to someone who values you more than him or herself.
Pay Attention
No one likes having to repeat themselves endlessly. Showing your potential special someone that you remembered a little detail about them (favorite food, movie, flower or other similar things) will take you far. People want others to pay attention to them. They will be touched you remember the small things about them.
Be Honest
If you are just looking to casually date, let the person know, so they don't get their hopes up that you are ready to run down the aisle or get into a committed relationship anytime soon. If you have been married, or even in past relationship don't keep this from the person you are dating, I guarantee they will ask you. If you have kids, be upfront. If you have slept with hundreds of people, do not feign virginity. More than likely, anything you don't spill upfront will have a way of getting out eventually. They will appreciate your honesty and integrity, even if it is not something they necessarily wants to hear. Honesty and trust are both the foundation of a good, long-lasting relationship.
Don't be Desperate
Just because he/she hasn't called or texted you 20 minutes after your date ended, doesn't mean he/she is not interested. By all means, do not bombard them with strings of texts or calls. Nothing screams "Needy and Desperate" more than this. Have enough confidence in yourself to realize that if he/she doesn't call you or decides not to date you, it's their loss, not yours.
Do not Settle
If you are not interested in your date, tell her early-on and cut ties, the sooner the better. Don't try to just use them as some kind of sexual object. It is better to get it out in the open right away as opposed to letting the relationship drag on for months or even years. By allowing it to continue on, you risk far more emotional and psychological damage to the other person, especially if their feelings intensify. The right person is out there for you. Don't settle just because you do not have the confidence in yourself to be single and on your own, or once again to try to use the person for something.
Be Creative
Just because you had a couple of great dinner-and-movie dates doesn't mean that is the only type of date you two will have successfully. I Like to workout, so If I have common interests with a person, as in working out explore those options. For example, if ever i meet a girl who likes to workout or likes baseball, why not take her to a baseball game or invite them to the gym, of course I have to hope she don't take it as an insult but if she likes to workout most likely she won't. Take in the beautiful scenery and challenge each other along the way. Being active together will bring you two closer together over a common bond. Take your date to the amusement park, a local tourist attraction if they're into that thing or even out of town for the weekend. Keeping it interesting and creative will keep the relationship alive and thriving.
Do not Become Intimate Right Away
Jumping into the sack after the first date can send mixed signals. Physical attraction does not necessarily equate to a good dating relationship. While one party might be in it purely for the sex, the other might take it to mean that the person is falling for them, and might become too emotionally involved too quickly. Take it slow. Give the relationship time to blossom outside the bedroom before you take that big step. Make sure you are both on the same page about what you want out of the relationship first.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Take note(physically or mental) of how your date treats others, their parents and their friends. Just because they can be sweet and attentive to you does not mean that is how they are once outside the dating phase. If they are dismissive and rude toward others, chances are they will end up doing the same to you. Cut and run early on you before they take you off the pedestal and starts treating you as poorly as they treats others.
Get to Know Each Other's Friends
A person's friends can reveal a lot about them. If their friends are all unemployed druggies, for example, you should wonder why they don't have friends that are not more successful and on the right path. I know you heard that ole' saying "You are what you hang around." Rather you want to believe it or not it's true. If they are a group of womanizing guys who bar hoops nightly picking up one-night stands, this is a red flag not to ignore. The same goes for a group of half-dressed females who go looking guys with money or that look likes they can support them. It is important to question why they don't have a better group of friends and what this says about their character.