Dating can often be a tricky and frustrating experience. Navigating the complex maze of the dating world can seem daunting at times. While there is no official rulebook for playing the dating game, there are many suggestions (or "rules") that you should follow as you try to find that perfect Mr. or Mrs. Right.
Do be Receptive
If you have always been attracted to the tall, macho guy with bulging muscles and perfect swag as yall would call it, or that looks like one of the celebrities you see on TV, don't rule out a short normal size, pretty decent guy. The same rule applies to men. Just because your dream girl looks like "Barbie girl" and wears barely-there dresses doesn't mean that she's the one for you. Give those who are not "your type" a chance. Who knows--you might just have been dating the wrong type of girl all along. Opposites can and do attract.
Be on Time
Nothing shows disinterest and disrespect more than someone who is consistently late for dates. This shows that the person does not value your time and that he/she is very selfish. If it happens once in a great while, don't sweat it, because things can happen. However, if your date is late with regularity, consider moving on to someone who values you more than him or herself.
Pay Attention
No one likes having to repeat themselves endlessly. Showing your potential special someone that you remembered a little detail about them (favorite food, movie, flower or other similar things) will take you far. People want others to pay attention to them. They will be touched you remember the small things about them.
Be Honest
If you are just looking to casually date, let the person know, so they don't get their hopes up that you are ready to run down the aisle or get into a committed relationship anytime soon. If you have been married, or even in past relationship don't keep this from the person you are dating, I guarantee they will ask you. If you have kids, be upfront. If you have slept with hundreds of people, do not feign virginity. More than likely, anything you don't spill upfront will have a way of getting out eventually. They will appreciate your honesty and integrity, even if it is not something they necessarily wants to hear. Honesty and trust are both the foundation of a good, long-lasting relationship.
Don't be Desperate
Just because he/she hasn't called or texted you 20 minutes after your date ended, doesn't mean he/she is not interested. By all means, do not bombard them with strings of texts or calls. Nothing screams "Needy and Desperate" more than this. Have enough confidence in yourself to realize that if he/she doesn't call you or decides not to date you, it's their loss, not yours.
Do not Settle
If you are not interested in your date, tell her early-on and cut ties, the sooner the better. Don't try to just use them as some kind of sexual object. It is better to get it out in the open right away as opposed to letting the relationship drag on for months or even years. By allowing it to continue on, you risk far more emotional and psychological damage to the other person, especially if their feelings intensify. The right person is out there for you. Don't settle just because you do not have the confidence in yourself to be single and on your own, or once again to try to use the person for something.
Be Creative
Just because you had a couple of great dinner-and-movie dates doesn't mean that is the only type of date you two will have successfully. I Like to workout, so If I have common interests with a person, as in working out explore those options. For example, if ever i meet a girl who likes to workout or likes baseball, why not take her to a baseball game or invite them to the gym, of course I have to hope she don't take it as an insult but if she likes to workout most likely she won't. Take in the beautiful scenery and challenge each other along the way. Being active together will bring you two closer together over a common bond. Take your date to the amusement park, a local tourist attraction if they're into that thing or even out of town for the weekend. Keeping it interesting and creative will keep the relationship alive and thriving.
Do not Become Intimate Right Away
Jumping into the sack after the first date can send mixed signals. Physical attraction does not necessarily equate to a good dating relationship. While one party might be in it purely for the sex, the other might take it to mean that the person is falling for them, and might become too emotionally involved too quickly. Take it slow. Give the relationship time to blossom outside the bedroom before you take that big step. Make sure you are both on the same page about what you want out of the relationship first.
Actions Speak Louder Than Words
Take note(physically or mental) of how your date treats others, their parents and their friends. Just because they can be sweet and attentive to you does not mean that is how they are once outside the dating phase. If they are dismissive and rude toward others, chances are they will end up doing the same to you. Cut and run early on you before they take you off the pedestal and starts treating you as poorly as they treats others.
Get to Know Each Other's Friends
A person's friends can reveal a lot about them. If their friends are all unemployed druggies, for example, you should wonder why they don't have friends that are not more successful and on the right path. I know you heard that ole' saying "You are what you hang around." Rather you want to believe it or not it's true. If they are a group of womanizing guys who bar hoops nightly picking up one-night stands, this is a red flag not to ignore. The same goes for a group of half-dressed females who go looking guys with money or that look likes they can support them. It is important to question why they don't have a better group of friends and what this says about their character.
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