Core Values

My Core Values

Many would say core values are a must to live a purpose driven life, hell in my opinion I, myself believe this to be true. Typically you see companies and business with core values or a form of them (a.k.a mission statements) although most of them barely follow them, they are vital to have for a baseline, a bottom line and a positive image of your company when being viewed from the outside. I believe the same thing goes for us as people, however, ask 10 individuals to share theirs with you, and you might get 3 of them, that can give you theirs without a problem, MIGHT. That's not good, however not something that not fixable. Often when you go through trials, tribulations and turmoil in life, when you find yourself in a hole that seem impossible to dig out of, it's often cause you don't possess, clearly, what your core values are and what's most important to you. There are also times and people, who at one time was clear about their core values at one time, but through the process of life, which we all know throws all kind of things at us, good and bad, they suppressed, compromised or ignore what they knew to be true as their core values. What detours us from living a life based off our core values can be many of a traumatic, life altering events. Sometimes, as with workaholic, it can be people getting to caught up in them, before mentioned company values. Also, one I dealt with many times personally, losing ourselves in our significant others.

It really scares me today though, which is why I'm here. With all the crazy, crazy things going on in today's society, the technology and social Media takeover-that's not getting any better- our people really is losing the sense of having core values. Oh what a price to pay, a lot of things that are going on today, in my opinion, is because of core values or lack there of. When you lack core values, it becomes really easy to let external demands and societal conditioning determine and effect your life. 

Colin Hiles is a writer, speaker and a consultant, he's also the man behind the outlining or form, in which I used to find my core values. At the very bottom of this posted you can get the direct link to the article he wrote "Finding your core values." One in which I highly encourage you to do. Colin says " I have found there’s a way to tell the degree to which your life is aligned with your values. You know it’s time to reconnect and close the gap when:

• You feel stressed and a sense of being out of control.
• You feel conflict or are torn between the different facets of your life.
• You’re excessively busy with every minute crammed with stuff but feel like you’re getting nowhere.
• You feel drained from constantly rushing to tick off your to do list that just keeps getting longer.
• You feel regretful about what you’ve done in the past."

Colin goes on to say its not to late, and that it is important that we understand the value in figuring out or core values "The good news is that you can change all of this, and the best starting point is to get in touch with your core values.  Fulfilment and contentment lives on the other side of their discovery and integration. By investing time and energy to get clear on your values and life purpose, by defining and articulating what you really want from all areas of your life, and then letting your values govern your decisions, you will live a fulfilling second half of life."

I took on the challenge and answered the main questions Colin had for me to answer, in finding my core values, they goes as followed; Colin's question then my answer.....

What, in life, is most important to me?

*Happiness, Family, Infinite mental growth and development, 

What does "Happiness" means to you?

* Happiness to me is, wholeheartedly living satisfactory through out life with mind, body, and soul regardless of external circumstances.

What does "Family" means to you?

*Family is important to me. However, it is important to know that family, and its members are also human and it is important not disenchant them with my expectations.

What does "Infinite mental growth and development" means to you?

* Infinite mental growth and development to me is always finding your mental capacity and going beyond it, not only in education, but also in levels of things like being understanding, open to change, evolution and compromisation to be a better soul in family and in society.

"Happiness"

* Success to you means?.... In happiness, ultimately I think when we die we all want to die with a smile on our faces. Live your life fully, stay in tune to your hobbies, things you like to do and that satisfy you, emphasizing on THINGS NOT PEOPLE! People are not as consistent as the things, that's important to remember. People leave us all the time rather it be in death, divorce, relocation or just simple change. When I die I won't more people to have good thoughts and an overall good recollection of encounters with me. Part of being happy is making the ones who life you encounter happy and happier than before they encountered you. No, your not gong to make everybody happy, and have good experiences with you, but as long as you stay true to yourself, whom you are, and what you stand for. Do your best, and if internally your a good person, with a good heart, and good intentions, you have nothing to worry about! 

"Family"

* Success to you means?..... Success in family to me means, simply just being the best person you can. With family it's tough to know you've been a successful family man or women, simply because that will be determined by the members of your family. Being a successful family man I think, requires more things like being understanding. Understanding to the fact that the members in your family are they own individuals, they have their own flaws, strengths, minds, and life. So, I think it important to ALWAYS be loving, stay open to change and seeing things in someone else perspective, stay fair, expect nothing, and STAY TRUE TO YOU! 

"Infinite mental growth and development"

*Success to you means??....Success in Infinite mental growth and development to me is WOW yourself! Continue to WOW yourself, rather that be with books and reading material, school, education, and learning new trades. Life offers us and unlimited amount of opportunities to learn and growth, you just have to be open and willing to. Often times, things like stubbornness, and pride gets in the way, keep your eyes, ears and mind open. Life is not short on wake up calls, we're just quick to hit the snooze button.

-SUMMARY

* Success to you means??..... In happiness, there will be a challenge In seeking, finding, and maintaining happiness. Life is a journey, the only thing constant is change and there will be things that happen in life that will hurt you and rob you of your happiness sometimes. Remember, Live your life fully, stay in tune to your hobbies, things you like to do and that satisfy you, THINGS NOT PEOPLE! Success in family to me means, simply just being the best person you can. All you can do is be, and do your best. No one has the right to ask you for more than that. Be understanding, stay fair, and expect nothing. Success in Infinite mental growth and development to me is WOW yourself! Continue to WOW yourself, rather that be with books and reading material, school, education, and learning new trades. Never stop growing, don't shy away from opportunities to learn, be willing to be wrong. Being wrong, often comes with an opportunity to learn and grow, as do uncomfortability.

In life we don't have all the answers. Life is and will always be one filled with many different angles, view points, and opinions. Yes we all have free voice, free choice to all of these things, however, it is very, VERY important that we stand on, and stand for something in life. A foundation is required to build anything, that includes a wholehearted happy life, that includes a happy family, that includes everything. With the influential powers of the world, as there are so many, in the form of people, religion, internet, TV, it is very easy to get lost in this world. Being lost in a world as biggest this one is a VERY VERY scary place. It is important that we figure out our core values, as it is the foundation in which we build our entire life on! While the process can be scary, long term it will help and transform your life, that I can promise!