Valentines Vs Sweetest Day

As we're all aware Valentines Day has just passed. I never knew how serious people took valentines day. For as long as I was a teen my older brothers and cousins always said "It just another day." I'm just now learning that sweetest day was the male version of a valentines day. I never knew that until last year. Wonder why? Probably because it not nearly as advertise or celebrate like valentines day is. There's not a specific color that signify sweetest day, there is no blow out sales, or TV commercials every commercial break, there is no assorted bags of candy with phrases or that says happy sweetest day. Why is this? That's a question I can't answer, not that it ever matter to me or ever will because just like valentines day I never celebrate these days. I think if you going to have both days, they should be treated equally when it comes to advertisement and sense of importance's, will that day ever come? I doubt it. Why? I'm not gone even get into that. Please don't misunderstand me, I have before made an effort in celebrating and/or participating in valentines day. People who really knows me could make a good argument that my past bad experience is the reason why I'm against the day, even though I will tell you that I'm not against it. If you care to know back in '05 there was a girl we wasn't officially together but we was pretty tight. For valentines day I bought this girl a 24k gold toe ring and ankle bracelet set, only for it to be thrown away by another one of her guys a few days later, talking about hurt, first time I ever truly been hurt kind of my fault for doing too much for somebody I'm not with. In '07 a girl I was in a committed relationship with, got her a basket of all that girl stuff at bath & body works, only to not receive anything in return, not even a card. Then this year 2010, got a girl a Lil something I won't tell cause she ain't received it yet, but not only is this another I'm not with, but we've recently had our difference in opinion and from the way things are going, within the next few weeks there will be no communication between us. I guess a couple of these situations you can kind of say i brought upon myself, some can say i did too much for girls who wasn't anything but really good friends to me, but I did it cause it was in my heart too, I knew we wasn't together, I never had sex or even kissed these two girls but there was something of a different vibe there then just friends and that was pretty clear as well. I know I do what I do for the right reasons and it's what my heart tells me to do, not looking for something in return and because of that I will be rewarded for it maybe not today, maybe not next week but one day I will. I try to remember to Just continue to do all that I do for the right reason, be patient, and don't get so discouraged or down to the point where I don't want to do the things my heart tells me. The girl this year i could easily not given her the stuff i bought for her, because i bought it about a week and a half before valentines day and a couple days after i bought it we fell out, but I'm still going to give it to her, because my heart tells me to, and just cause we had a fallout doesn't mean my feelings has changed. I know you wondering why she don't have it yet, only because of the snow and the simple fact that i have to mail it to her at school. Bad experiences could lead to a change in outlook on certain topics, but I can't say this is why I feel like this way about this day. I guess the day is meant for couples and once I have my significant other I will more understand why Vday is important. As for sweetest day, I hope it get better for my fellas, but from the look of the things this day is evolving into another day that is her day, a day where you have to shower her with nice gifts, dinners, and what ever she wants in order to stay out the dog house.