Seeing all the blame being pointed in every which direction, I observed and tried to find the commonalities of humanity and our obsession with blaming and shaming folks. I even dug within and use my life, and relationships as a comparison to my hypothesis of WHY we must blame.
Blame is simply the discharging of pain and discomfort. Observe someone next time you're being blamed for something. ( it WILL happen no worries) We blame when we’re uncomfortable and experience pain, when we’re vulnerable, angry, hurt, in shame, and grieving. 'What took 911 so long to get big mama to the hospital?'
There’s nothing productive about blame, and it often involves shaming someone or just being mean and cruel.
And Cruelty is cheap, easy, and chickenshit.
Accountability though, now that takes work, 'like why is big mama over 300 pounds and not doing the preventive care of herself' (newsflash that's the American way)
Okay that was cruel and mean, dammit! I'm sorry 😔.
Where was I? Oh yeah Accountability! Accountability and its were we humans are lacking.
Understand however, that's it's a requirement for growth and change. You get neither one of those things point your finger to blame.
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