No couple embarks on married life expecting to end up in divorce court, but that’s what happens to many couples nowadays. After a lot of research I have found that When a postmortem is done, most marriages are found to be sabotaged by one of these 10 traps:
1. Taking your partner for granted...... That’s like having a garden that you’re not weeding or fertilizing, You can’t expect it to continue to thrive. Let your partner know you appreciate him or her.
2. Forgetting that a good marriage takes work...... People think that having a happy marriage is a magical, mystical occurrence. We’ve accepted the fact that parenting takes a lot of skill, but we don’t want to accept the idea that romantic love takes a great deal of work, too.
3. Not talking through conflict...... If you rely on heavy sighs, slammed doors and other non-verbal communication when something is bothering you, you could be playing with fire. As painful as it may be to get the conversation started, you must speak up. Otherwise, problems start festering and begin to take on a life of their own.
4. Failing to romance your partner...... We all want to be made to feel special, that’s why it’s so important to set aside at least one night per week for you and your spouse. Use this regular ‘date night’ to share your hopes and dreams.
5. Fighting dirty....... The better you know somebody, the easier it is to hurt that person. No matter how angry you may be about something, you need to resist the temptation to figure out the one thing that will hurt your partner the most and then use that against him.
6. Fighting over money....... A recent study by the Million Dollar Round Table, an international association of life insurance and financial services professionals, found that 43% of married couples argue about money. If money’s becoming a major source of conflict, you might consider sitting down with a financial planner or some other 3rd party that can help come up with a financial game plan you both can live with.
7. Letting the passion fizzle..... Have sex often — anytime either of you is in the mood. If you wait until both partners are in the mood, you won’t end up having much sex at all and, over time, you’ll end up drifting apart.”
8. Shutting down sexually when you’re angry rather than dealing with issues....... Although withholding affection may seem like the ideal way to punish your partner, you risk seriously damaging your relationship.
9. Failing to understand that marriages have ups and downs........ It’s OK to expect incredible moments in your marriage, just don’t expect them to happen every day.
10. Throwing in the towel too easily...... We’re so accustomed to the concept of obsolescence that we treat our partners as disposable. Vow to rekindle the flames rather than looking for the closest escape hatch.
Marriage in the U.S. is as common as anywhere else in the world, the problem we have is staying out of Divorce court. Some report that the Divorce rates in the U.S. is over 50%, that's mainly because so many get married for the wrong reason. I'm not one that can speak too heavily on this cause I'm not yet married and never been but just ask a friend or a neighbor and you can usually get a good idea of marriage in the U.S. I hope this do a good service to many like me that haven't took the chance yet, and ones who has but looking to try it again in the future. I live with a generation where finding a good girlfriends is like finding a needle in a haystack, so I would really love to drop this rate for the sake of the country, and call this just doing my part, and ultimately educating myself for when a make some lady the luckiest woman and wife alive! Good Luck Friends!
John G. Dnnn II
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