Why Are Men Vilified At The End Of Relationships?

I was asked earlier the same question earlier and it was ironically, something I can relate to at that current moment. I didn't have an answer though, and after thinking about it I don't. As sad as it is to say, I guess it just come with being the man of a relationship. What I do know is relationships don't just end, a lot of events and mistakes take place before a relationship ends and believe it or not both parties usually play a role in the mistakes. Although both parties play a role, as a man, you will be judge, stereotyped, you will be demeaned, dishonored, disrespected, talked about, vilified by you guys mutual friends and sometimes even your own kin once that relationship ends. Truth be told Men, 9 times out of 10, becomes the villain once a relationship ends and I wonder why? There's always two sides to every story, differences, and different equations that leads up to the best, but unfortunate solutions. In relationships, you can only do what you know, you can only do your best, you can be the best person you know how and put your best effort forward. Successful relationships require that all parties, view getting their core needs met as being legitimate. Relationships that last, and blossom are the ones where your best is good enough to your significant other. They take it, work with it, add to it, and help grow your best to even better. Unfortunately often times that don't happen and when people inquire on what went wrong, and why things didn't work, as they will, its usually he or she did this, or didn't do this that's how the story often times end. I'm sure there's many people who can relate, and maybe you all have a logical answer, or one that make sense, cause I don't. After all that I still can't help but wonder Why Man is always vilified at the end of relationship? Man, Woman let me know???

Reds and Bailey Far Apart In Contract Negotiation

Even after letting Bronson Arroyo leave as a free agent, the Reds have a strong rotation led by Johnny Cueto, Mat Latos and Homer Bailey. Bailey is due to become a free agent next winter and the two sides are talking about a long-term contract extension, but right now they are nowhere close to a deal.

There's an enormous gap between the #reds last offer and what Homer Bailey wants in a long-term deal, source says.

— Jerry Crasnick (@jcrasnick) February 8, 2014
It's going to take some major compromise for Bailey to sign and avoid hitting the market as a free agent in November. #reds

— Jerry Crasnick (@jcrasnick) February 8, 2014
Bailey, 27, filed for $11.6 million in salary arbitration last month while the Reds countered with $8.7 million. He earned $5.35 million last summer and will surely be looking for Zack Greinke (seven years, $147 million) and Masahiro Tanaka (seven years, $155 million) money next winter with a strong 2014 season, if not more.

In 32 starts last year, Bailey set several career bests, including innings pitched (209), ERA (3.49), WHIP (1.12), strikeout rate (8.6 K/9), strikeout-to-walk rate (3.69) and WAR (3.2). He also tied his career bests in walk rate (2.3 BB/9) and home run rate (0.9 HR/9). Bailey has also thrown two no-hitters in his last 34 starts. Needless to say, his career is on the upswing.

According to Cot's, the Reds will open the year with a payroll right around $100 million, similar to last year. They currently have $68.7 million committed for 2015 but will have to deal with several pricey arbitration cases next offseason, including Cueto, Latos, Mike Leake and Aroldis Chapman, among others.

It seems unlikely Cincinnati will be able to keep the core of their rotation intact beyond next season without significantly raising payroll. Trading Bailey at the deadline for younger (and cheaper) players could be an option, but it may not happen if the Reds are in contention. This will be a situation worth monitoring all year for sure